Your mind can be your best friend…..
or your worst enemy.
Your mind can be your best friend. It can also be your worst enemy. Your mind can Sabotage your success….without you even knowing it.
Remember the old cartoons that pictured a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other? Each was giving advice. Well, it turns out that’s pretty close to what actually goes on in our minds. Your mind.
We each have “voices” or “influencers” in our mind. We each have a Saboteur and a Sage in our brain.
Look at the person nearest you right now and say, “You have voices in your head.”
The Saboteur is the voice, thoughts, or feelings you experienced in early childhood that helped you survive.
Maybe as a child your voice said, “Don’t try to jump that ditch or you’ll break your leg.” As we grow up, that voice stays with us, and may begin to say, “Don’t try that new thing because you’ll fail.”
Or it says, “You’re not good enough,” “You’re inadequate,” “You don’t deserve success.”
The other voice is the Sage. It reminds us, “You are good enough,” “Anything is possible,” “You can do it.”
1) What if I told you that there is a way to measure how much your mind is working FOR you versus working AGAINST you?
2) What if I also told you that you can make your mind your best friend and significantly improve your performance.
Let me introduce you to “Positive Intelligence.”
Positive Intelligence, or PQ, is the measurement of the percentage of time your mind is serving you rather than sabotaging you.
250 research studies of over 275,000 people revealed:*
- Those with a Higher PQ earn more money and have greater success
- Salespeople with a higher PQ sell 37% more than their counterparts.
- Negotiators with a higher PQ are more likely to gain concessions and close deals
- Teams with higher PQ Managers perform 31% better
- A comparison of 60 teams showed that a team’s PQ was the greatest predictor of its achievement
Your POTENTIAL is determined by many factors:
• IQ – Cognitive Intelligence
• EQ – Emotional Intelligence
• Your skills, knowledge, and disciplines
• But, your PQ determines what PERCENTAGE of your vast potential you ACTUALLY achieve.
For 20 years I served as a Pastor/Counselor. I earned a M.Div. degree with a minor in counseling viagra vente libre en pharmacie. I helped grow a church from a small group meeting in the living room of a house to a 10 acre campus serving thousands. I coached my staff and volunteers.
Lesson: (1) If you can lead volunteers you can lead anyone. (2) Everyone is a volunteer.
Then, I sabotaged my success with a bad marriage that ended in divorce.
I entered real estate. My Sage said, “You can do this.” And, I did. I grew a top performing team at RE/MAX and then opened my own brokerage. I consistently closed over 100 transactions per year.
I hired coaches that helped me succeed. I learned how to coach my team.
In 2007 the real estate crash devastated our Bradenton, Florida market. We went from the #1 hottest market in the U.S. to the #1 worst market in the U.S.
My business collapsed and I was wiped out. My Saboteur told me I was a failure. My Saboteur almost killed me. I was distraught and even contemplated suicide.
My Sage said, “It’s time to Cowboy up.” I was hired by Fortune 15 Financial Services Company, where I served as a team leader and Financial Advisor for six years. I hired coaches that helped me succeed.
I recruited, grew, and coached a high performing team of Financial Advisors and support staff. It was a rewarding, growth experience which allowed me to use and sharpen my coaching skills.
But, I wasn’t happy. Dealing with a toxic corporate culture made me miserable. Dealing with a Compliance Department that said no to every creative and innovative idea was burdensome.
I loved coaching and wanted to be able to coach others outside the company. The Company said, “No, you can’t do that.” My Sage said, “Yes, yes you can.”
I spent two years availing myself to further education, becoming a Certified Executive Coach. Then I launched my own company.
In 2014 I became a Texan by choice and moved my coaching practice to Austin.
4 Lessons I’ve Learned:
1) If you can lead volunteers you can lead anyone. And, Everyone is a volunteer.
2) The importance of resilience. There is a Japanese saying, “Fall seven times and stand up eight.” Meaning: When life knocks you down, stand back up / Keep trying.
3) Coaching accelerates success. The Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said, ”To lead people, walk beside them. As for the best leaders, the people do not notice their existence … When the best leader’s work is done, the people say, ‘We did it ourselves!’”
4) It’s possible to reduce the strength of your Saboteurs and increase the strength of your Sage. I help my clients do that all the time.
Feature Image: By Setreset (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons
* From the book, Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine