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You Are Who You Surround Yourself With- Remove Toxic People Out of Your Life

You are who you surround yourself with. Chances are, you already know this to be true.

Have you ever heard the saying, “Birds of a feather flock together”? 

Here’s another way to look at it: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

If this is true, then why do so many people surround themselves with negative or mediocre people? Wouldn’t you agree that we all have the potential to achieve greatness and enjoy a truly fulfilling life? 

The problem is that so many people spend their time with others who encourage bad habits, terrible attitudes, and negative thinking. 

But guess what? It’s not your fault — you’ve been conditioned by society to seek out friendships based on proximity and convenience rather than common interests and shared values. You see, if our relationships with other people don’t align with our core values, we might as well not have any relationships at all. 

We all deserve better than that! What if I told you that you could easily become a better person simply by changing who you spend the most time with? It’s true. The quality of your life is determined, in large part, by the people with whom you surround yourself. 

“Focus on an ocean of positives, not a puddle of negatives.” – Kevin Ansbro.

 

Positive People Will Lift You Up

When you surround yourself with people who have positive attitudes, it’s only natural to start feeling positive too.

The same goes for people who have negative attitudes. It can be hard to break out of the cycle of negativity if that’s all you’re used to being surrounded by, but it’s much easier than trying to keep up with someone who is constantly lying or stealing from you just because they want something from you. Surrounding yourself with successful people will make you feel successful too, which can help motivate you even more!

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey.

 

Bad Habity You Can Get From People Around You

What you do with your time, who you surround yourself with, how much sleep you get—these are all habits. And they’re contagious. If your friends have a bad habit of constantly eating junk food, you will have a hard time not doing it. Likewise, if they meditate daily or go on long morning runs or read inspiring books before bedtime, chances are those things will become part of your life too.

So if you want to change your life, start by changing the people around you—or at least audit them to see if they can be helpful or harmful influences in your life right now.

“You become like the five people you spend the most time with. Choose carefully.” – Jim Rohn

 

Surround Yourself With Those Who See Greatness Within You

The first step to being a better version of yourself is to surround yourself with greatness.

You must decide that you are going to surround yourself with positive people who are better than you, supportive people, and those who will raise your standards.

  • Raise Your Standards! – Our society has lowered the standards over time. We used to be happy when our son was able to do something we couldn’t do, but now our kids think it’s great if they can reach us on Facebook or send an email. That is not being smart; that’s just being average in a world where everyone is trying their best, but nobody really cares about excellence anymore because the bar has been set so low for them.*Proximity is Power* – Cultivate “Real Life” Relationships With People Who Have Already Accomplished Your Goals

 

“Surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself!” – Zig Ziglar.

You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

Get Rid Of Negative Realthinoships

Examples of negative relationships:

  • your toxic ex, who harbors resentment and is a total narcissist
  • your overbearing boss or co-worker who micromanages you, makes you feel bad about yourself and berates you daily (and sometimes hourly)
  • the guy at the bar who keeps hitting on you even though he has a girlfriend and she’s standing right next to him

How to let go of negative relationships:

Letting go can be difficult because we are often attached to people based on our past experiences with them (for example, if your brother was mean to you as a child). If this is something that describes your relationship with someone in your life, I recommend trying some therapy techniques that help with forgiveness and letting go so that it doesn’t affect the rest of your life negatively.

For example, one method is called EFT tapping, which involves tapping different parts of your body while thinking about how the person made you feel before releasing those feelings through breath and meditation exercises such as deep breathing or guided imagery.

Another method is called reframing, where instead of focusing on how they hurt us or mistreated us, we focus instead on what positive qualities they have that outweigh their flaws (examples: “He’s good at fixing cars,” “She always gives me hugs when I need them”).

“Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.” – Roy Bennett  

 

Surround Yourself With Positive Peoples

Positive people are the ones who are always there for you, always encouraging you and making you feel better about yourself. They may not be the best at everything, but they’re willing to help and support their friends through the toughest of times.

Identifying positive people is one thing that can help lead to a fulfilling life. We spend so much time with our friends; it really does make sense that we should get along well with them!

 

“If you surround yourself with positive people who build you up, the sky is the limit.” – Joel Brown.

 

People You Must Surround Yourself with

The people you surround yourself with are going to have a major impact on your success in life.

The good news is that there are certain types of people you should consider surrounding yourself with, as they will help you become a better version of yourself. These types include:

  • Positive people who support your dreams and goals
  • People who want nothing but the best for you and want to help you achieve your goals
  • People who will challenge you to grow and become better each day

 

“If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible.” – Adam Green.    

 

People You Should Not Surround Yourself With

Don’t surround yourself with people who are:

  • Negative, not positive
  • discouraging, notsupportive
  • unsupportive , not encouraging
  • Not positive in their outlook on life and the world around them

Everyone has different personalities and interests. It’s important to surround yourself with people who are interested in the same things as you.

This can help you grow and learn from each other. You should also avoid spending time with anyone who is negative or doesn’t have a good attitude about life.

“Surround yourself with really good people… Because the people you surround yourself are a reflection of you.” – Aaron Rodgers.

You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

You are the average of five people you surround yourself with

Think about the people you spend time with. Those are the people whose opinions and perspectives on life, work, and everything else matter most to you. You’ll notice how they influence your ideas and outlooks, as well as your behaviors.

If you’re a leader who is responsible for hiring team members, then it goes without saying that who those team members are matters a lot. They will be responsible for bringing their best selves to work each day.

The only way we can achieve our goals is if we surround ourselves with the right kind of people—people who will help us get there faster or better than we could have done alone or with someone else: people who complement us in our strengths but also fill in any potential gaps where we may lack something (whether knowledge or skill sets).

“Surround yourself with good people. People who are going, to be honest with you and look out for your best interests.” – Derek Jeter

 

Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

You need to step outside of your comfort zone if you want to grow. You need to take risks, experience new things and be open to change. Being willing to learn is important, too–especially when it comes down to learning from our mistakes. It’s also important that we surround ourselves with people who are willing and able to help us grow as individuals.

 

You can’t become who you want to be by surrounding yourself with people who are holding you back from being the best version of yourself

You are who you surround yourself with. You can’t become who you want to be by surrounding yourself with people who are holding you back from being the best version of yourself.

You need to surround yourself with people who are going to help you achieve your goals and make a positive impact on your life.

“To have goals in life and a drive to succeed, and to surround yourself with the things and the people that make you happy. This is success!” – Sasha Azevedo

 

Conclusion

Surrounding yourself with people who love you, encourage your dreams and help you grow as a person is one of the best ways to live a happy life.

However, it’s not always easy; sometimes it takes effort and courage to step outside your comfort zone for the sake of your personal growth. If there is someone in your life who is standing in the way of you becoming the person you want to be then maybe it’s time for some soul-searching about whether that relationship needs to change or end altogether.

The purpose of this post isn’t to discourage you, but to show you that most people who surround themselves with negative or mediocre people aren’t aware that they’re not taking advantage of the opportunity to be around positive individuals.

The next time you find yourself in a room full of people who are constantly complaining or making other people feel small, I want you to remember this post and use it as an opportunity to tune them out. Life is too short to waste your precious energy in an environment that doesn’t help you fulfill your true potential. Be bold, courageous and confident. Surround yourself with positive people who encourage you and hold yourself accountable. You deserve it. You are better than average.

“Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you.” – Roy Bennett

 

Meet the Author

Mo Fayez is an engineer by trade with more than 15 years of experience in management, passionate about Management coaching, self-help, and productivity. He has a passion for teaching and helping others become the best that they can be. He also enjoys training people to become more productive at work.Learn more about this blog that Mo has created in 2021, and why he decided to start this blog. If you want to send Mo a quick message, then visit his contact page here.

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